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Book launch celebration and signing party Sept. 24–read all about it!

newsletter-graphicI will be publishing my latest issue of my mostly-monthly author e-mail newsletter on Monday morning, Sept. 12, 2016, including details on my upcoming party! If you haven’t signed up to receive it, text MCMESKE to 22828 or click here to sign up today. You won’t want to miss the inside scoop! Join me along the trail…I’d love to have you on the journey!

We made it!!!

youth-570881_960_720Another year moves behind us as today marks the end of our celebration of all things poetry.

National Poetry Month aka #NaPoMo is marked each each year in April through a variety of ways…I chose to challenge myself to writing 30 poems during the past 30 days of celebration…

Ladies and gentlemen, I give you my final three…poems 28, 29, and 30 can now be enjoyed here…along with the other 27.

I did it…we made it…and I thank all of you for your interest, support, and ongoing words of encouragement. Enjoy!!!

And be sure to come back every day for the next few days for some more exciting news as this author and poet continues to splash around and play in the wonderful world of words…and just in time for Mother’s Day!!!

I see a big reveal coming your way…stay tuned…

Yes, love is one of those four letter words…

Happy_Valentines_DayFor all of those who dread the weekend ahead, there are many more of us who look forward to it. Sunday is Valentine’s Day…the holiday where love is celebrated just as it should be. And lovers have a wide variety of ways to express just how much the ones they love mean to them.

For me and my handsome hubby, we chose to turn the day into a double whammy chock full of love by getting married on that day just two years ago. The date was 2-14-14, and it was 14 months after we first fell in love.

You couldn’t get more romantic. We also knew that in the future if either of us forgot our wedding anniversary and Valentine’s Day, there would be real hell to pay!

Love is a four letter word. As is hell. They both invoke so much passion inside of us when they enter our hearts, our minds, our lives. When you think about it, all of the four letter words are felt with equal passion. “I hate you!” “F*** you!” “Sh*t!” “Damn!” “Go to hell!” OR “I love you!” “I miss you!” “Kiss me!” I could go on.

Each and every one of these declarations trigger deeply felt emotional responses within their exploiters as well as within their targeted recipients if, in fact, they are living objects (we all know that the objects aren’t always alive).

Ironically, there are more four letter words that we use to symbolize the love we want to express to someone. Card. Gift. Rose. Kiss. Poem. Song. Ring. Meal. Wine. Beer. Oh, and one might invoke that one four-letter word again in some cases…you know…a good “f***” or more nicely put, a romantic evening of lovemaking.

Chocolate doesn’t make the four-letter word list, but I’m sure we can figure out a way to make it work within the limits if we try.

All of these symbols, these expressions, are as passionately impactful as the emotions they have been invoked to represent.

Words are powerful, even at just a mere four letters.

I was told repeatedly for a good chunk of my life that “feelings are liars.” But, as my Kevin has pointed out to me often enough, feelings are who we are. They are how we feel.

If our feelings are liars, then does that mean we are all living un-authentically every time we tell our children we love them as we kiss them good night? Are we lying when we grieve the loss of someone who we told for years how much we love them? Is it false to cry when we hurt? Does anger feel fake as it flushes our faces? What is it then that causes our hearts to swell with pride when we watch our child perform his first drum solo or have his first piece on display in the art gallery? Were we all faking it as we watched in horror and disbelief as the planes crashed and the towers fell?

Love is one of those four letter words. And maybe I used to think it was often a lie. But I have come to terms with it, and all the other four letter words we embrace or dread. I am now living as authentically as the world will let me. I am enveloped in love, and life sounds good, and feels even better. I invite you to do the same.

Now we just need to come up with a four letter word for chocolate…or better yet, those red velvet cheesecake brownies that my sweetheart makes better than anyone else ever.

Valentine’s Day…bring it on!

The holidays don’t have to be crazy days

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Work–life balance can be achieved by establishing and maintaining appropriate levels of time and energy expended between your “work” (career and ambition) and your “lifestyle” (health, pleasure, leisure, family and spiritual development).

Having this balance allows you to experience enjoyment, personal fulfillment—not just happiness, but also pride, satisfaction, love and celebration—an all-encompassing sense of well-being.

When your work and personal lives are out of balance, your stress level is likely to soar. Throw in the holidays and all the added demands for your time and attention and you might just feel as though you’ll either explode or melt. Juggling your career and personal life is a never-ending challenge, and the holiday season only adds to the struggle.

Here’s 4 tips for proactively and positively maintaining a healthy work-life balance this holiday season:

  1. In the workplace: Schedule walking meetings to help maintain an exercise routine. It’s easy to discard your daily workout when your time is demanded upon in a dozen other places each day. A walking meeting will not only keep you well and keep you moving, but will also help to maintain a greater focus on the meeting’s purpose. Those who are in the meeting with you will reap the added health benefit as well, and there will be a lot less opportunity to digress from the meeting’s agenda by those who often do.
  2. Working from home/self-employed: Continue maintaining your daily routine and schedule, but consider reducing your scheduled productive blocks of time. Rather than five 8-hour blocks of focused time each week, it might serve you better to shoot for six blocks that are 6 hours each. This not only frees up more time in each day for family and fulfilling your holiday to-do list, it also makes sense because your creativeness and energy are being drawn in an added direction for the next several weeks. You will need more blocks of time to re-energize in between.
  3. Frustrated_man_at_a_desk_(cropped)Personally speaking: Prioritize where you plan to expend your time, energy, talent and being. Keep rest, down time and sleep at the very top of your list. If you allow yourself to be spread too thin, you’ll end up weakening yourself and your immune system. Your goal for the holidays should be to spend quality, uninterrupted time with those you care about most rather than to end up at home too sick to be around them at all.
  4. Specifically regarding the holiday celebrations: Rather than being perfect, be joyful and enjoyed instead. Stay home for your holiday meal or visit one side of the family—but not both. If you are preparing the holiday meal, keep it simple; prepare only those holiday dishes your loved ones can’t seem to live without. Or consider making it a potluck, ordering your meal in, or maybe even eating out. Again, it’s all about the quality of the time spent making memories, not about the quantity of the food served or the gifts given. Speaking of gifts…consider drawing names instead of having every person giving (and therefore buying) something for every other person in the bunch.

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The best gift you can give during the holidays and every day is one of memorable experiences.

After all, that’s why we celebrate the holidays: to share love and joy among generations as we reflect on past memories and create new ones.

What good is it to spend all your time and energy trying to build a memorable occasion if the later reflection upon it is one that everyone would just rather forget?

10 Things I’ve Come to Realize over the Past 10 Months

100_4895This week I thought I’d travel down the path less traveled. I thought I’d write about something that is merely entertaining rather than being all serious and professional like I usually am when I write these posts…but as I reviewed my journal notes, I realized that the life of a nerdish author/writer/bibliophile is pretty much non-climactic. There’s not much drama in this girl’s world these days…

I continued to think about other things I’ve realized over the past year so far, though. And perhaps the biggest revelation I’ve made in 2015 came with a conscious decision just a few months back. I finally said to myself, not just in my mind but out loud as well, “It’s time to really start DOING. You’ve studied HOW long enough…”

Further research brought me to 10 other realizations I noted in the 10 months of 2015 that have passed so far:

  1. Carrying-Grocery-BagsIt’s okay to make more than one trip from the parking lot to your third-floor apartment with your groceries. It’s not because you’re a girl or out of shape or old…you’re actually working on getting in those 10,000 steps a day…
  2. Popcorn and Diet Coke can be a satisfying meal when you’re home alone on a Tuesday night…
  3. Dishes still don’t do themselves…I’d pay them to do so if they would…
  4. Shoppers are as thoughtless out East as they were back in the Midwest…
  5. Absence might make the heart grow fonder, but it sure doesn’t make your college student call as often as he should…
  6. My husband’s wood shop tool collection is much more expansive than all of my books…
  7. Work-related notes: a writer and an author are actually two different types of wordsmiths…one may not necessarily be the other…and apparently most song lyrics are written after the music composition is underway, not the other way around…
  8. Pasta is still bad for me, but it still tastes too good to pass up…
  9. lady in libraryI will never finish every unread book on the shelves of my home library…
  10. Family…it’s those people who care enough about you to stand by your side throughout the most painful and most humiliating of moments in your life…they stand with you in your fight against immorality as well as when it’s time to shine in the sun…

Can’t wait to discover what else I’ll come to terms with in the months that remain…